Sunday, May 10, 2009

Just A Mom?

(email from gailgurl)

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office,
was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
'What I mean is,' explained the recorder,
'do you have a job or are you just a ...?'
'Of course I have a job,' snapped the woman.
'I'm a Mom.'
'We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation,
'housewife' covers it,'
Said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation,
this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
'Official Interrogator' or 'Town Registrar.'
'What is your occupation?' she probed.
What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out.
'I'm a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations.'
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and
looked up as though she had not heard right.
I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written,
in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.
'Might I ask,' said the clerk with new interest,
'just what you do in your field?'
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice,
I heard myself reply,
'I have a continuing program of research,
(what mother doesn't)
In the laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
and already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,
(any mother care to disagree?)
and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it).
But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are
more of a satisfaction rather than just money.'
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career,
I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model,
(a 6 month old baby) in the child development program,
testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable
to mankind than 'just another Mom.' Motherhood!
What a glorious career!
Especially when there's a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers
'Senior Research associates in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations'
And great grandmothers
'Executive Senior Research Associates?'
I think so!!!
I also think it makes Aunts
'Associate Research Assistants.'


Happy Mother's Day to all the Beautiful Women in my life.

19 comments:

bearer of three said...

this is beautiful...Its amazing how people act as if being a mom isnt a job. It is the hardest job in the world and we do it for free...I just dont get it..We are tissues, Blankets, Ponys, We are cooks, Doctors and Narrators and most of all we are there best friends...Happy Mothers Day to you and thanks for sharing

Rachel Cotterill said...

That's hilarious, I love it (and I'm not even a mum)

Mental P Mama said...

Amen. Have a wonderful day;)

Unknown said...

Wow, that was good!

Happy Mother's Day!

Joyce said...

Nice Mom's day post. I use to tell people that my primary job was to raise future citizens of the USA..you should have seen the confused looks on some faces when I said this:) Happy Mother's day to you today.
Joyce

T said...

I was smiling the whole time I read this. I just might have to use that one of these days!

From one Research Assoc. to another -

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!

Big Hair Envy said...

Just beautiful, Noe!! Thanks, again, for your hospitality yesterday. Happy Mother's Day to one of my favorite gals!!! Luv You!

Unknown said...

Such a wonderful post. Thank you again for such a wonderful time this weekend.

Thinkinfyou said...

Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!!

A Joyful Chaos said...

That was great! Hope you had a wonderful Mothers Day!

Donna Reed In Blue Jeans said...

I love this post! LOVE IT!!! I was at a baby shower a year ago when one of the ladies was asked if she works, and she said apologetically, "No, I'm a stay at home mom." It really hurt me that she felt that had to apologize for this. I have been a working mom - a mom who when to college part time, worked full time and came home to my family, and I have to say that to stay home FULL time has been much more challenging. I'm proud to be a stay at home mom. I will not apologize because I know that I'm doing what's best for my children. I will not feel inferior because we don't have as much money as we did when I worked, because I feel that what I've traded is much more important. If you screw up as a parent, you can't go back and do a redo. It's done.

I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!!!

Dr.John said...

What a great title for A mother.

Unknown said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. I love this Noe Noe : ). Very sweet. You are a great Mom! I hope you had a wonderful Mothers day!

j said...

I hope that you had an awesome Mother's Day. Little T is blessed to have a wonderful Momma like you.

Anonymous said...

How true!!!!! If mothers got paid for everything that we did, we'd be gazillionaires!

DH gets irritated with me. On anything relating to business (taxes, other business forms) that I have to put my occupation, I waiver between Domestic Goddess/Small Business Owner
and Domestic Engineer/Personal Assistant/Small Business Owner
depending on how much space is allotted for the title.

Anonymous said...

Isn't it a shame that the most important job in our society is devalued? When I quit my job to stay home awhile, you'd be amazed at the number of looks I got when people I hadn't seen in a while asked how work was going. Then the comments..."Oh, you're a stay-at-home mom now???" Ugh. Frustrating. I'll have to remember this job title!! ;-)
Hope you had a blessed Mother's Day.

abb said...

That was wonderful and I'm glad you shared with us. Hope your day was special for you.

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

Girl.........I understand yall had a big bloggy friend blow-out without inviting me!!! What's that all about????
Hey, I saw the story over at Marlene's place and it looks like a blast Noe Noe!!
Aren't friends, new and old, just the best thing ever?? (and no, I'm not calling anyone in particular old.........well......:)

Steady On
Reggie Girl

HalfAsstic.com said...

That was SO sweet! Happy Mother's Day!